Neurodiverse Couples Therapy
Relationships where one or both partners are autistic or ADHD can bring unique strengths as well as unique challenges. Often, both people care deeply about one another, yet find themselves caught in cycles of misunderstanding, frustration, conflict and emotional disconnection.
You may recognise some of the following:
Having the same argument repeatedly without resolution.
One partner feeling unheard, criticised or unimportant.
One partner feeling overwhelmed, confused or constantly under pressure to get things right.
Difficulties understanding each other's emotional needs.
Sensory overwhelm, shutdown or withdrawal impacting the relationship.
Rejection sensitivity, emotional reactivity or conflict that escalates quickly.
Differences in communication style leading to misunderstandings.
Challenges around intimacy, affection or emotional connection.
Difficulties managing household responsibilities, organisation or family life.
The impact of a recent Autism or ADHD diagnosis on the relationship.
Many couples arrive believing they have a communication problem. While communication is often part of the picture, the difficulties usually run deeper. Partners may process information differently, experience emotions differently, have different sensory needs, or simply understand the world through very different lenses.
This can leave both people feeling exhausted, misunderstood and increasingly disconnected despite their best efforts.
My role is not to decide who is right or wrong. Instead, I help couples develop a deeper understanding of themselves, each other and the patterns that have developed within the relationship.
Together we explore:
How Autism and ADHD may be influencing the relationship.
Communication patterns and recurring conflict.
Emotional needs and emotional regulation.
Sensory differences and overwhelm.
Rejection sensitivity and criticism.
Trust, intimacy and connection.
Strengths within the relationship that may have been lost beneath the difficulties.
My approach is Humanistic, Relational and Neurodiversity-Affirming. I work collaboratively with both partners, creating a space where each person feels heard, understood and respected. Therapy is not about changing who you are. It is about increasing understanding, reducing blame and helping you find more effective ways of navigating life together.
Whether you are seeking to strengthen your relationship, recover from a difficult period, adjust to a diagnosis, or decide how best to move forward, therapy can provide a space to explore these challenges with support, honesty and compassion.
Arrange a 20-minute introductory call to discuss your situation and see whether we may be a good fit to work together.